My Best Friend Died Today : A True Story
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Love and Blessings to my friend Lorena Kay Lund : Who died this evening in Phoenix, Arizona. She will be missed and loved by all who knew her. But now will be with Xena and Harmony in the next world. You were my best friend.
I do believe she really will be happier, her life had not been the kindest. She tried really hard as long as I knew her, but her life was far from happy. She had two dogs she loved, but they both died of old age in the last year. She and I were close, but she was never really happy. I think this is the right thing.
I wish more of you could have met her, but such kind words from my friends means a lot. It is sad, don't worry I will be okay. Life is what we have to share together. Love is the Law. Blessed Be.
A LORENA UPDATE: LORENA WAS TAKEN TO THE ER ON FRIDAY MORNING. AFTER HAVING TO BE RESUSCITATED 4 TIMES THEY GOT A HEARTBEAT AND PUT HER ON A VENTILATOR. SHE HAS SINCE GONE INTO CARDIAC ARREST 1 MORE TIME. AS OF THIS EVENING SHE HAS LITTLE TO NO BRAIN ACTIVITY, A VERY WEAK HEARTBEAT AND CAN ONLY BREATHE ON THE VENTILATOR. AS OF TOMORROW MORNING SHE WILL BE TAKEN OFF OF LIFE SUPPORT.
This was posted on Facebook for Family and Friends of Lorena Kay Lund on 01/08/2012.
It was the last communication that would be posted on her Facebook wall from her family concerning her death.
In some ways I knew her better than her own family, we had all our karma and things said in life. We had no issues unresolved, it was a great friendship. That is rare to have no regrets.
I guess you take chances sometimes and they work out. If I told you how we me, most would be shocked that we became so close. It was a friendship forged in honesty, we knew who each other really is...not what we wanted the other to be. We had one or two hard moments, the rest was pretty amazing. Like a sister, girlfriend, lover and friend all in one. And she was the smartest damn woman I have yet met...
Despite being a big girly dork.
She loved to do huge jigsaw puzzles, glue them to canvases and frame them as art. She had several dozen from her life. She meditated by doing beading. She had thousands of boxes of beads seaparated to make jewelry when she felt like relaxing.
She liked reality TV, news, had her fave soaps and liked Grunge rock. Alice in Chains was her favorite. She was a recluse, it was by chance we even met. You could pass her on the street and never meet her. She was a person that is always walking the other way.
She was born an Aries on Tax Day.
Her spirit was free thinking, aggressive, thoughtful and proud. Her freewill and intellect was a force of nature. Her sexuality and physical body was beyond naturally in tune with its animal magnetism. Her ability to lust for knowledge and still succumb to her higher self, made her the most challenging human being I have ever known.
She was wild, womanly, magical, mature, innovative, creative, passionate, funny, dirty minded, loud mouthed and honest. She was worldly, witty and wise, but not opposed to using bribery, blackmail and blowjobs if necessary. She was good hearted by nature, liked sharing her thoughts, loved being naked and would open your mind, without changing it. She was my muse, my mistress and my best friend, even sometimes with benefits.
No one word could describe her and no one person could try.
Lorena was if anything a lady.
A SONG DEDICATED TO YOU LORENA MY LOVING FRIEND
LORENA KAY LUND
April 15, 1967 - January 9, 2012
A LORENA UPDATE: LORENA OFFICIALLY PASSED AWAY WHEN LIFE SUPPORT WAS DISCONNECTED ON MONDAY JANUARY 9, 2012 @ 12:05 WITH FAMILY AROUND HER. SHE HAD STOPPED BREATHING ON HER OWN THE NIGHT BEFORE. LORENA FINALLY HAD THE PEOPLE WHO SHE CARED ABOUT WITH HER TOGETHER FOR HER FINAL DAY.
No one who is remembered in the hearts, minds and souls of those who walked the Earth with them are ever not with us. This is so very true, it is the journey of life that is important. Love is the Law...
FOR THOSE INTERESTED. THIS IS A POEM I WROTE FOR LORENA AND PUBLISHED ON HUBPAGES WHILE SHE WAS STILL ALIVE ON 10/11/2010. IT IS TITLED ' OUT OF MY BODY '.
GOODBYE MY FRIEND. MY LOVE. XOXO BLAKE4D
This is the last email message Lorena sent me online to my Hotmail account before she left for her stay in Prescott for rehab. We spent her birthday in a motel for a chance to hang out and relax for once. I had just got my big tax refund and we got a room for her birthday on Tax Day April 15th.
She wrote me, " I'm really sorry. My mother called right before I was gonna call you. I didn't answer her call but checked for voice mail. She said she was on her way to Phoenix because she thought that I left a message this morning. I called her right back to tell her that she was mistaken and not to come here. Freaked me out! We talked for over an hour. She needed reassurance that I am OK after leaving the program early. I am very sorry. Let me know when you are home via Facebook. I will be online or checking for messages often. Hopefully U will be awake."
This is the last private IM Lorena sent me online via Facebook. It was just two weeks before Christmas 2011, which we spent together in Phoenix.
She was having a bad day upon returning to her rehab stay in Prescott, " Hey you. Long time, no talk. Got my phone taken away again last week (though this time not my faullt. A couple of other girls blew it so EVERYONE lost phones, computers, cars etc.. ) Believe it or not I didnt give them my computer so I am using it now to type this message. The house phone is almost always busy cuz there are three new girls here and noone has their phone. I really hope we get them back soon! I have lots more to tell you but I will wait til we are talking on the phone. Ill try calling you tomorrow. I love you and miss you!"
This is the final obituary posted in the Arizona Republic obituaries:
Lund, Lorena ... 44, of Phoenix passed away on January, 9, 2012. She had just completed a rehabilitation program at Decision Point, Prescott Az. She was born April 15th, 1967 in San Francisco, Ca. She was preceded in death by her two beloved dogs, Harmony, and Xena. She was going forward with her new life in a career as professional dog groomer starting January 9th, 2012. She was surrounded by her family at the time of her passing. Lorena is survived by her mother, Genette Griffin, father, Robert Lund, step-mother, Margereta Lund, Brother, Kevin Lund, and sisters, Frances Berg, and Elizabeth Dowell. At the wishes of her family there will no public service.
Her family, friends and everyone who knew her will miss her dearly.
Since first publishing this on the weekend of Lorena's death, there has been some issues with friends, family, and others that may have known her. A few of these have felt the need to post comments below, some of which are nice and others that are not. It was not my intention to make a hub that was glorifying the loss of Lorena, drawing sympathy towards me, or to cast anything in a negative light about her life or death. This is a tribute to her life and having known her through the last eight years before her death, I know what her thoughts about such would be. I am not claiming to have known anything except who she really was. That was always enough in our friendship, brief as it may have been. I will not censor or edit any comments left below, but try to remember her life and not focus on the past. Anything else is not hers to worry about any longer. She is at peace somewhere, somehow, and no longer worried about this world and its problems. To the right is a picture from her childhood, adolescence. Before anything had taken her innocence or grown into adulthood. She was happy. That is what she wanted all through life. Just to be happy.
Goodbye Lorena. You will be missed.
This is my favorite picture of Lorena Kay Lund eating an apple.
LORENA LOVED MUSIC MORE THAN ANYTHING IN LIFE. SO HERE IS A SONG FOR HER. BLESSED BE TO YOU MY FRIEND.
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I am so sorry for your loss. You have written a beautiful heartfelt tribute to her. Thank you for sharing this.
God bless you for being such a loving, and wonderful friend. I'm sure Lorena will always be with you, and this tribute to her is absolutely beautiful.
I am so sorry for your loss - what a nice way to pay tribute to her!
Thanx everyone for your kind words, Lorena certainly would be happy to hear such positive supportive things. She was a great friend and an even better woman. Thanx for helping me honor her memory. Keep on Hubbing. Blake4d
Thank you for sharing Lorena with us. You are in my thoughts, and she, as well. May the memories you carry of your beautiful friend bring you much peace. ~ Laura
Aww Lalesu, if u had not sparked our late night conversation online, I might not have been able to get this hub out in such detail and for that I take a bow to you. Lorena would have appreciated your interest and how you helped me see the moment more clearly. It has been very positive to release this energetic day in a more creative way. You lalesu are a force of nature yourself. Always you are welcome to talk, read, write or speak your mind with me. You are a muse of amusements. Thanx again my thoughtful blonde hubber. Keep on Hubbing. Blake4d
That was beautiful. I'm so sorry for the loss of your friend.
A wonderful tribute to your friend. You have great memories that you will treasure the rest of your life.
I'm sorry for your loss. Just a week ago I lost one of the most influential, kindest, and most genuine man I have ever met, my grand father. I feel your loss and I hope you find comfort in the near future.
Your words are all so kind. Thank you each. I am at a loss for my own words. Keep on Hubbing. Blake4d
I am so sorry for your loss but I am glad that you had such a wonderful freind .. x
What a beautiful tribute to your friend. Sorry for your loss.
Very heartfelt. I feel your loss even more after reading your poem, ' Out of my body ' Thank you for sharing...
So sorry for your loss. She sounded like a great person to know.
If we find one true friend in this life, we are lucky. I think you were down right blessed. I feel as if I know her now through your words and I like her too! I believe she will be watching over you just as she did when you could reach out and hold her hand.
I stand in awe of you, of the fact that you did such a wonderful tribute in the face of what must be so painful. Even when we know deep inside they go to a better place, that the pain ends, we still grieve for our own loss of what we hold so dear. Blessings for you.
To everyone, I feel I must ask that you forgive if I cannot reply to every individual response as I might normally. This is a very heavy thing for me, know that I so am touched by how many people are responding. It is not about me, or getting sympathy or attention. It is about honoring my friends life. You all would have her heart beaming were she alive to receive such warmth and feeling commentary on her brief life. Bless you all, whatever you believe in. And I thank you.
Keep on Hubbing. Blake4d
Poetvix ... thanx for stopping over and responding to my request. For some reason, I really wanted your input on this, perhaps because I normally do not write about something that has happened so immediately and it is a bit scary. But I felt that this was the best way to exorcise the feelings I am going through today. I also felt there was no better time to capture what my memories are . As time passes, sometimes our memories become cloudy or blurry with our imaginations, I wanted to capture the reality of my friend. Before time allows my mind to alter it, in any way. Sometimes I have noted, how close your commentaries are to my true intentions, that is why I asked you to ramble on over and give this hub a looksee.
Thanx for your awe, but I really am doing this, because I do not know what else I should do. I guess if I share Lorena's memory with others, the world of people I communicate with...maybe I can share some of what I feel with you and those others in my life. Maybe I won't have to loose her, but maybe I can share her. It is the best idea I have for now and I think that she would be happy with that, even if she would give me hell for embarrassing her, in private. LMAO
I am lucky that I met Lorena, she was lucky to have met me too. I know this. I am glad you liked her, I can only say she was that and even more. We had a minute or two to know what a beautiful place the world can be. Everyone keeps consoling me about my loss today.
The truth is that I did not loose anything. I was one of the people who grabbed my opportunity to have a real friend when I saw it, and I made the most of every minute. My life has gained ground, not a thing that really matters has been lost at all. Only time perhaps...but not a moment of love.
Keep on Hubbing. Thanx again poetvix. Blake4d
I'm really sorry to hear about this.
Thank you so much Helios for taking the time to come here and leave your comment. Lorena actually became a fan in the last few years of your work with Damon Edge as the early Chrome. She was a big rock punk alternative fan and found your music refreshing, I was happy to have turned her on to it late in life as an audiophile. You rock HC. Keep on Hubbing. Blake4d
It is amazing the amount of response this hub has been getting today. Thank you a thousand times to the readers here and on Facebook. Even the couple of not so nice readers have had a positive effect and made the last 48 hours purposeful for me. Thank you all. Keep on Hubbing. Blake4d
What a beautiful tribute and hymn of love. And how lucky you and Lorena were to have such shared each other's lives. She is still with you I am sure and you are with her. That will not change. The disease of addiction is cruel. I am so sorry for your loss. Voting this hub up and beautiful..
Hi Blake, you don't know me, but we're friends on FaceBook. A little bit ago I clicked on a picture on FaceBook without reading the caption. I thought I saw someone I knew. After clicking I was not sure, but I was touched.
Real friends seem few and far between. Thank you for reminding me.
Thank you both. Yes, addiction and the other things that usually are part of life before the addiction is ever a problem, often they cannot be overcome easily. In my friend Lorena's case, she made the important realizations, just not in enough time to beat the decline of her own physical health. There were a lot of factors that played into it, not just her addiction. Thank goodness she went quickly and I think painlessly. Keep on Hubbing. Blake4d
blake4d your memories of your friend will be in your very own heart beyond your last breath taken on earth. You do her honor by your kindest of words. I am saddened by your loss yet she is in a better place, it appears to me she was struggling desperately in her life and she was going through struggles to stay alive.
I have had similar losses and it pained me dearly. We all walk through this life mostly alone, we suffer, we hurt inside and if we gather up even ONE important friend along our journey here we are truly blessed. She found that friend in YOU and this wonderful tribute to her will ring in her ears and her spirit will rest with yours and both of you will find peace.
Be well my friend and may Lorena Kay Lund RIP with the knowledge that she left behind a wonderful friend who LOVED her with all his heart. Peace and blessings to you.
We are all sorry for your loss Blake. It is your time to receive comforting love and hope, as you have offered so often to others. Be blessed and warmed by the love!
Thinking of you today and praying for peace and harmony!
Thanx saddlerider, it means a lot and your words ring so true. And thank you again for coming to this hub SGL. Today is only a day removed at this point, I have had time to think about so many things, I hope you all are right that Lorena has the ability to hear this vibe and all your wonderful words for her peace. Keep on Hubbing. Blake4d
This is so sad. Beautiful tribute. Thank you for sharing.
I'm very sorry for your loss. This is a beautiful and inspiring article. Thank U for sharing her story.
I am sorry to hear about your loss. This is a wonderful tribute to your friend. I think she is proud to know that you have been there for her, and keep her memory alive with this tribute. Thanks for sharing this bit of personal sorrow with us.
I'm in awe of how you were able to write this while still processing the fact of your loss, Blake. Take the time you need to think of her, remember, celebrate or whatever you have to do, and don't let anyone tell you there's a time limit on processing this. There is no "get back to normal' and "get on with it" and "it's over - bounce back' here. Just be you, be beautiful, remember and love.
XOXOXOXOHUGS
Very sad for you and your deep loss. Your words of tribute are certainly from your heart - you must have loved and respected her so much.Remember it takes time to grieve and you must take the amount of time that you need - not what people tell you is the right amount of time! Peace blake4d.
Your love for Lorena is very apparent, and you honored her in such an amazing way.
Thank you for sharing a part of Lorena with us. She was a beautiful person.
I am so happy that you were able to find an outlet in HP, and that people have been so supportive and encouraging.
You are a very strong person.
I hope the best for you, and for everyone that knew Lorena.
I just had to come back here and give you a huge ((((hug)))). I don't have the words. Your outlook is better than mine would be. I don't deal well with loss. My father raised me after my parents divorce until he was murdered and then my mom of course stepped up in the face of impossible odds. As a result, death is not an issue I deal well with. It was long, long ago but you know what they say about buttons. My heart reaches out to you and I believe your friend, Lorena's does too and always will. Thank you for a glimpse into a much better attitude than my own tends to be. Blessings.
Here in the Islands we say Aloha Ke' Akua= Love Is God. The word Hawai'i is really three words. Ha,is the first breath of life, wai, is water the giver of all life,'i Is the last breath of life. full circle. I pray her life was well lived even with her pain, and had more love to share than all the hearts beating as one. I never knew her yet she`ll be with my prayers always. Life is never lost, it just touches more lives through the love you have shared with us about her life, and your steadfast friendship. Aloha from Pahala Hawai'i. Mike
My sincerest sympathies. This is a lovely tribute to your friend. I bet she's sitting up there swinging on a star and looking down at you.
You captured the reality of your friend very well indeed blake. Lorena surely makes a lovely new star in the heavens now.
Lorena was my beautiful daughter. She was raised by her step mom , her father and I. We are the ones who tried to help her and suffered though hard times and sadness. Her father and I took our beautiful baby girl home. Her dad named her Lorena Kay. For the so called "friends" who claim to love her, you loved her to death with drugs and alcohol. She finally had a chance at a good sober life and a job as a professional dog groomer. You took that away from her with your selfishness never trying to save her by supporting her efforts to be sober.
Thanx for all of you who read this and felt your hearts for Lorena, even for a moment.
Genette, I am glad that Lorena had wonderful adopted parents like you were for her. She had many blessings in life. I am glad you were there for her in her passing. No one ever said otherwise. I want you to know, that I did try to support her efforts to stay sober and encouraged her to continue down that road, and to get her education to be a dog groomer. I even told her I thought it would be the best way she could process her grief over losing Xena and Harmony. We never got to meet, so we do not realize how each of us tried to encourage her. I did not choose to try to speak for you in this memorial to her, because we did not know each other well enough to do so. Lorena was blessed by all of the people who were sources of good in her life. She tried very hard. We all have lost someone very special. You did have a very beautiful daughter.
Thanx again to everyone taking time to read this, it honors Lorena. Keep on Hubbing everyone. Love Blake4d
I'm also sorry for your loss Blake. Losing someone you care about is never easy. She was lucky to have you as her friend!
Thank you. Keep on Hubbing. Blake4d
blake4d,
Words can't express the sorrow I feel for you. I wish there was something I could say. If you ever need to speak to someone I'm right up the road.gjf
Thanx I am overwhelmed. Keep on Hubbing. Blake4d
Dear Blake-I am so so sorry for your loss. Your tribute to your special friend is so moving and I'm weeping for your loss. This video you uploaded is amazing and gave me goosebumps, just as your story of your friendship did. She is watching over you now Blake and will always be around you. Just keep remembering that she is at peace :-)
Keep on Hubbing. Blake4d
Lorena would thank all of you. Blake4d
Thanx also to her family some of whom have been supportive and some not. May you be in our prayers, as you mourn the loss of your daughter.
5 days later, things are still sad. But not for the worse, there has been some issues with this article that I am sorry for, but still I think that Lorena would be more than happy with the positive response so many have had. Keep on Hubbing. Blake4d
I'm sorry for your loss.
I feel like your beautiful Lorena was a Wise One who loved deeply and was overwhelmed by the pain and conflict in the world. I am so sorry. I hope her continued spirit in your life will bring you peace.
Lorena would appreciate the many kind comments. This hub is for her, its not about me. Thanx to everyone. Keep on Hubbing. Blake4d
KOH. Blake4d
That's so sad Blake, your talking about Lorena, that's good. You will never forget her,but God does comfort the greaver in time. I know! my son was murdered a long time ago. I too believe he is in a better place and that we will meet again. You'll meet with Lorena again. I also am writing about my son, and why I know he's happier. With my two hubs you'll have a clue.
I have a clue about your lovely friend. She's happy Blake. Kay
Thanx for your very kind words Kay. Keep on Hubbing. Blake4d
May all of you have good blessings and prayers for the rest of 2012
May all of you have good blessings and prayers for the rest of 2012
One thing about friendship, Blake...we take it the dented fenders that come on it. I can tell that is exactly what you did here and you were a good friend all the way to the end. As much as we would all like to change outcomes, sometimes it is just beyond our ability as humans but we can learn from it and I think you did. Maybe she is in a better place...we can only hope that is the case. God Bless. WB
Friendship is eternal. What expressive and poignant words. A true friend you are and always will be to her. You have celebrated her through this hub. Very touching. ((Big Hugs))
Hello Blake,
You were strong and brave to be such a good friend to Lorena as things got tougher. Sometimes your friends and even family members bail on you at the toughest times of life. She sounds like a beautiful person, and you do too. We all experience loss, but many do not express their feelings of anger, pain, sorrow, confusion. It's healthy to get some of that out in this way. I believe in an afterlife, and bet Lorena is watching now and wishing she could comfort you. It's said you are lucky if you have one really good friend in your life. Mine passed away five years ago, and it still hurts like hell. I meet her mother for lunch and try to take care of her a little, as I promised. It's OK when we are together, but I cry all the way home.
Dear Blake ~ This feels like a eulogy with many moments you shared together with her beautiful life. May she be at peace and you also. I have been thinking how our writing is eternal, our words and thoughts in cyberspace. Blessings, Debby
WB as usual you have some grounded thoughts on a tough subject. Thanx.
AE your kind words are appreciated.
JB, I hope we both have found some closure, but yes life does hurt at times.
DB, it was meant as a kind of eulogy, but more of a memorial. Perhaps just a way to honor Lorena's memory and keep it to remember her as the years pass on.
Keep on Hubbing everyone. Blake4d
WOW Blake ~ i am truly sorry for your loss. Heartfelt reading your words. Bless ~
Much appreciated Bb. Everyone who loved and knew Lorena will miss her, but she is at peace, of that I am sure. Keep on Hubbing. Blake4d
She seems like a sweet lady I never knew. I hope she's at peace now.
Thanx so much. Keep on Hubbing. Blake4d
you didnt know her at all...........
you should be ashamed!!! You stalked her and fed her illness!!!!!!!!!!!--KARMA IS A BITCH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! tweeker better watch himself
what goes around comes around----------watch out cause its a coming for ya!!!!!!!!!!
you fed her illness. how dare you act like you cared. Sick freak
I do not know who wrote the last few posts. But I felt I should address them, and will be honest. Lorena and I knew each other almost eight years. Yes, I admit at times I may have been part of the problem, but we were friends and I know I spent more time with her in those eight years than her associates, friends, family or anyone that she was close to. I have not said this publicly, but Lorena asked me to marry her on Christmas Day 2011, she was trying to find the right way to move on with her life. She left to get her things in Prescott with another male friend, so I did not get to see her before her death, except for a few minutes the day before. Even though I may have fed her addiction in times past, that was not what was the case in those last weeks or even before. Whomever wrote the last few posts, I hope you find closure and know that everyone who knew her has lost something very special. I feel for your pain, and hope you can remember her and honor that memory. You must have loved her too.
To Hubpages and readers, I do not believe in censoring people for their opinions, this hub is not for my benefit, it is to remember Lorena. Keep on Hubbing. Blake4d
Thanx for you comments everyone. All input and friendship that remembers Lorena Kay Lund is welcome. Keep on Hubbing. Blake4d
Many are hurt by the loss of your friend and they will act out accordingly to there own anger and pain. It is nice that you were able to keep the posts up and nobody should be judging you for your right or wrongs. All of us know what we should or should not do and sometimes addictive personalities can also lead to self-destruction. Again I am sure she was a good person she just went down the wrong path and there wasn't any turning back this time. What I can say is she is no longer in pain or suffering through any years of turmoil she may had, May she rest in Peace.
As for not knowing who they are, all you have to do is track there ip address which post at the back of all of the comments that they write. But if you are not really interested and just allowing them to vent, then there isn't any need to bother. They are hurt and in pain too. God Bless
Thanx AE. I appreciate your supportive comments. Yes I did know that I can track the IP, in fact I only checked as far as the general GPS location, so I now know who they are, but am not worried about pursuing it. They do not realize how close Lorena and I were, by knowning what city the IP came from I already know exactly who wrote the above posts. It is good that they are getting the negatives out, and I don't mind being a scapegoat for somethings in life. I probably am the best target in this instance, I don't mind, Lorena did many things above and beyond the call for me as a friend over the eight years we had on planet Earth. She probably would give a cosmic wink, but I know it is all about being who you really are. I hope everyone who reads about her, thinks about her, and learns something from her life. It is not about those of us left behind, it is about not being left out. Everyone has an opinion about everything, I truly believe all of us are important and equally deserving. Peace out. Keep on Hubbing. Blake4d
For anyone interested, I have added a few more photos and an addendum to this hub. It is amazing how many people have taken time to view it and share it across the Internet and the WWW. Thanx to everyone. Keep on Hubbing. Blake4d
from what I understand of you Blake I dont like you much, I am sure you were friends on some level but what I hear from true friends who have known her much longer they think you are a real creep, you 2 got drunk did drugs ...I mean really, saying you were friend with benefits, and other comments?? does not bode well with friends of our group. You say you honored her, I say thats a bunch of malarky. I wouldnt touch you with e ten foot pole.
@blake4D: What I have learned from her life is you never take anything for Granted. My younger sister had problems to and all of us would blame her issue on her acquaintances. I being the older finally realized my sister created her own actions, her own lifestyle and those people she surrounded herself with were also weak and influenced when it came to life. They were depressed, lonely, lost souls who were just trying to fit in somewhere. Needless to say I gave it over to God and my sister is clean and with us today. I stopped blaming those who were around her but made her take accountability for her actions. Some of those friends she had are also clean and share with other there horror stories. Sadly your friend is gone and people are angry but they will realize one day that the purpose of your friend was not to create animosity but she only wanted understanding, there was something missing in her life that could not be explained. I will pray for all of those who are saddened, angry and hurt by this event. I was one of those people who felt the same way they did.
To clarify...I don't drink alcohol. Never have that is something Lorena liked about me as a friend. I have done everything else. Lorena was a poly-user, my addictions have always been singular. But everyone wants to blow off that she was wasted drunk the night she died, I hadn't seen her in two weeks...she had been up at her rehab center to collect her belongings. She was with her other friends who told me to stay away from her - so many times. But I never once put a bottle in her hand. It was the alcohol that was her demon of choice. I was one of the only friends she had that didn't facilitate that. And everyone brings up her addictions, not one of you has yet brought up how you encouraged her to stop selling her body, or that her family sent her to a wilderness cult as a teen, or anything that might have been more damaging psychologically. How dare any judge me. No one was there for her night, after week, after month, after most of eight years, then suddenly everyone thought she needed fixing. As for my comments, you need to read with your heart. If you knew her so well, you would see her humor there...most of the wording is actual conversations and things she had said to me over the years. At least people are viewing her memories, that she left mostly with me it seems. She made sure I had what pictures she had transferred digitally, she was sad that she never had time to put all her pictures to digital. I have many more but most will just remain private. There was never time.
Thanx AE for your comments.
I should make a thank you to the hub pages editors who have done an amazing job at monitoring this hub, and other issues (that I am aware of) and taking the time to respond with their own input. I suppose I did not expect it to warrant such anger, at me. But that is okay. From this point on I will probably just thank future comments for their perspective, for I have little other commentary. Nor will I argue over and slander the memory of my friend. Keep on Hubbing. Blake4d
Those who posted as "me", "you", "tweeker", "friend", etc., and who posted ridiculous derogatory comments... you have disrupted the positive content on this hub reserved for remembering Lorena. If you are the family and friends that Lorena came from, it is plain to see why she might have chosen to numb out with substances in order to veer away from your negativity, hostility, etc, and because you obviously couldn't experience ALL OF HER with your limited ability to understand and face the truth of her addiction history. It's shameful that you showed up here using this page to display your rudeness in an entirely ugly way - to name-call, issue passive-aggressive threats under anonymous names and hidden identity - when this page was created and published as a matter of respect for remembering Lorena.
Obviously, the positive comments far outnumber the negative ones here. How does it feel, "me", "you", "tweeker", "friend", to be just the few who are not bringing honour and respect to this page dedicated to Lorena's memory?
Thanx MB. Keep on Hubbing. Blake4d
Rest in peace to one of my oldest and dearest friends. I hope you and Mike find one another. I loved you and lost you. I tried to be a pillar with which you could stand. Neither of us were perfect, but we loved each other.
Thanx Nikki, Lorena would have loved you kind words. KOH. Blake4d
A beautiful tribute to a beautiful girl. We shall miss you Lorena. xoxoxo A Friend...
Thanx EG. Keep on Hubbing. Blake4d
You never have to explain to others about the purpose of the article you have written memorializing a friend. To those who read the memory and tribute see a friend who took the time to honor her life and bid her farewell with courage. To those who wish to spew such negativity on a memorial should be ashamed of the words they have written. There is always another place and time to vent, but this is a place to honor someone's life, not write words of animosity on it.
Many of us who has posted did not know her, but through the words that are written we have embraced her short life and see her beautiful smiles in our minds.
Thanx AE. It would have been Lorena's birthday yesterday. Your comment is appropriate and timely. Keep on Hubbing. HBday LKL. Blake4d
She is celebrating in heaven with many others. She was quite stunning while here on Earth and now is more beautiful where she has gone. Happy Birthday to Lorena :)
Blessed Be. KOH. Blake4d
Awww this is so beautiful. What a wow thing to write. I wish I had known her too. You were so lucky.
Thanx AAJJ. Everyone that knew her was lucky. Keep on Hubbing. Blake4d
Thought of you a lot today LKL, and that last car trip with Xena, and the day my car died but made it just far enough to pick you up when you tore you knee ligament. That car died right after that. One of those cosmic winks I suppose. I miss you a very lot, everyday, but I am moving on with life like you told me to. xoxo Blake4d
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Thanx again MB. Love to everyone who has taken time to comment on and read this hub, love to Lorena and her family as well. Keep on Hubbing. Blake4d
SimpleGiftsofLove Level 5 Commenter 4 months ago
What a heartfelt, beautiful tribute whom I never had the privilege to meet. Lorena's story is partly my story, it has been a difficult long road, through which only my faith and recovery has sustained me. You did her honor by your words and all of you are in my prayers today. Up and beautiful, and written from the heart. Blessings